Yes the mods can be a little snippy, but think about it.....if you were constantly being expected to do legwork for someone that 1. does not provide all the information and constantly says what about these days or those days or 2. simply EXPECTS a free service....you might be equally as snippy. I look at that board simply as a resource, nothing more. In that light it provides a valuable service. If someone has the need to post there they should at least show some respect for the mods time by following what they ask for. Doing legwork just for myself takes alot of my time, I can't imagine trying to support all the people in those forums !
BTW..Margo...it really is not that bad of a process if you read and understand their faqs and then read the posts for the properties you are interested in to see what prices are coming in at. Like I mentioned above, I am pretty happy with my price at Pier66 for our pre-cruise, especially compared to what Radisson was asking for !
As far as Napa : We ate at Don Giovanni, Bistro Geanty and Tuscany and they were all very good. Depending on the time of year of your Napa trip, I would also recommend making some reservations at particular wineries for tours. We enjoyed the ones at Merryvale and Cakebread especially. Also don't miss the wineries along Silverado Trail. Chimney Rock was our favorite.